Home sweet home?
Since my parents divorced about four years ago, my mom, my sisters and I haven’t found a steady home. My dad “kept” the house we lived in because it is his mother’s house (she lives there too). We moved out with nothing but our clothes and went to my (maternal) grandparents’ house to live with them for a while.
After a couple of months of living with my grandparents, (stuffed in their tiny house, suffocating with their cigarette smoke -I have asthma!-, and dealing with their overall meanness), we moved to a rented apartment. It was relatively cheap but after almost two years we were suddenly unable to afford it, and had to move back with my grandparents until things got better (February ‘08).
Things are not getting much better, though. Both of my parents work their asses off and earn crap. So we’re basically dirt poor and have no place to call home.
That might change, though. My grandma “owns” a house that belonged to her (third?) dead husband, and she had it rented because she lives here with her (sixth?) current husband. No one has lived in it for the last 3-4 years, and my mom is so desperate about moving out of here that she asked my grandma for the house. She agreed, and apparently, we’re moving.
There is a lot of work to do though. After all the house has been abandoned for 3-4 years and it looks like a jungle is growing from the backyard. Plus lots of things are broken or missing. Also, eventually there will be paperwork and mom would have to pay the small percentage of the house’s value that belongs to other heirs. We’ll still need some greens :P
It is a big investment and a load of work, but this might be out first real home if everything turns out alright. We’d be moving to a big city, bigger than our current one. My mom would have to transfer her job and my sisters would have to transfer schools. It just feels like everything we know will be far away. If you look on map it doesn’t look too far, but heck, traffic is particularly heavy horrible here.
I know I’m a big baby, but I’m afraid of this kind of change. I’m even more afraid of things going wrong and my mom losing the money she has put in to make this happen. Why do things have to be so hard and uncertain?
You’re not a big baby. :P
I’d be afraid too, of that kind of huge change. And I’d be worried about my mom or dad losing money and all of their hard work gone to waste.
I hope you find a cozy home. =)
I’d be scared too, since Bayamon is a huge city and you have to make a few changes. But it’ll be better for you in the long run. :)
I hate changes too, especially huge changes!
But I’m sure that you’ll be alright~!
Good luck though. ^^
Everyone’s scared of changes. I’m also actually afraid that if I do get a 5-year scholarship next year (to go to UK) I’d really be a big baby and cry non stop :P
All the best :D
Anyone would be scared of that kind of change. I mean come on, moving to a big city, transfering jobs and schools—who wouldn’t be scared?
Good luck =)
There’s always uncertainties in life but it’ll be nice for you and your family to have your own home. I hope everything goes well and that you all enjoy the new place. All the best. :)
Oh, wow. I would love that kind of change, but I understand why anyone else wouldn’t. I hope it all goes well <3
Everyone is afraid of change! I’m afraid of cleaning my desk sometimes, just because I won’t be used to the neatness (small example). Look on the bright side — at least you’ll be away from the smoke and meanness. :) Is it strange that I like… cleaning? *shifty eyes* No, I’m not crazy. It just gives me a sense of pride to take before and after shots of places that I’ve cleaned. You could always set a goal to have the house cleaned and fixed up by *insert date here* and challenge yourself. Challenges are always fun!
Your grandma has had a lot of husbands…
First and foremost, I am very sorry to hear about your situation. When I was younger, my family went through some of the same problems, except, at the age of 5 years old, my mom, sisters and I ended up having to live in a shelter. It wasn’t an easy road but my mother made it work with determination and very hard work. Sometimes to achieve the better things in life we must endure a struggle that we believe will never end, but it always works out for the best, if we are willing to put in the hard work to make it work.
Uncertainty can be very annoying, but in the long run it leads you through to something new, and hopefully better! I hope you and your family have a great time with the new house, it sounds like you have a lot to do!
The one thing I got out of this was, “What the heck?! Your grandma has had SIX husbands?!”
I think it’d be kind of fun, moving into an old, uncared for house and making it your own. Good luck :)
I would be afraid of a big change like this too… but don’t worry I’m sure everything will settle in place for you overtime. Sometimes changes are good. =)
Change is scary sometimes. We had financial problems back in 2003 and ended up living in hotels, only to be kicked out because we couldn’t afford it. MY grandparents offered their home and then we moved to the east coast (initially, we were in the mimd west). I was terrified of the move ’cause I didn’t have any friends in this new place (aside from family) and everything would be new to me. It all worked out for the better and like in 2005, I think, we were able to move into an apartment. Soon enough we should be able to get a house, so I’m excited about that. I hope everything will work out for you guys and I am sure this transition will be easier than you think. It’s not like you’re moving to a whole new country.. Or even a whole new state :p.
It’s normal to be afraid of change — moving somewhere new is a turning point in life! But at least now, Lene, you’ll have a place to call your own. Sure, your mom will still have to shell out some cash for the repairs and the percentage, but in the end I’m positive that she’ll spend less on the new house than she has on rent! And I know it all depends on what part of Bayamon you’re moving to, but if it’s near the #2 then it’s relatively close to San Juan, which is very close to Trujillo Alto.
I really hope everything turns out for the best =] *hugs*
Good luck! I don’t think you’re a big baby either, otherwise instead of writing a coherent entry about it all you’d be on the ground flailing and crying, ha.
Moving is definitely a scary thing for me, so I can sympathize there. Especially after my dad passed away a few years ago, I wasn’t sure about anything and I felt like I was quite alone since I lived with my dad and would have the option of finding my own place to stay or moving back to my mom’s (we didn’t really get along at the time, but I opted for the latter partially because I could not afford the former). I hope everything works out for you and your family - at least you have each other to lean on :)
That seems like quite a big change. And I don’t think you’re being a baby for being afraid. ^^;
But I do think having “your own place” would be pretty good for the self esteem and feeling of belongingness. And away from all the unwanted in your home.
And… 6th husband? Your grandma sure gets around… O_O
From your more recent post, I’m glad you’re feeling better about this situation. :)
I know how crazy it is to move, having done so several times in my life. It’s hard to uproot and re-settle. But it’s a pretty exciting thought that you all will have a real home out of this, I really hope it works out! Refurbishing a house can be fun and fulfilling…I’m trying to do that now with the old house I’m living in and it’s been an interesting experience so far.
I hope everything continues to go well. :D